Discover Julie Roys' personal journey of reporting church abuse and corruption, the challenges faced, and why she remains committed to seeking truth and justice as an act of worship.

Why I Continue to Expose Church Corruption Despite the Cost

Should I Report? Why Fight for Truth and Justice in the Church?

Following a grueling season of investigative reporting, Julie Roys considers: Why continue shining a light when doing so comes at such a high personal cost?

If you’re struggling to keep fighting for truth and justice, this talk will not just encourage, but inspire you to keep going.

This program was also released as an audio podcast and transcript on Nov. 28, 2023:
https://julieroys.com/podcast/why-not-quit/

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Why Not Quit? Featuring Julie Roys

Discover practical, research-backed techniques to communicate confidently, set boundaries, and maintain your power when dealing with difficult people in any situation.

Mastering Conflict: Proven Strategies to Handle Difficult People and Reclaim Your Peace

How to Handle Difficult People 

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Today, you are getting research-backed strategies for handling difficult people. 

In this episode, you will dive deep into how to respond to disrespect, gaslighting, and exactly what to say when someone tries to brush off their behavior with, “I was just joking.” 

You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better. 

Jefferson is here to teach you exactly what to say (and what not to say) when you're dealing with a difficult person: 

If you’re tired of being talked over, dismissed, or made to feel less than, it’s time to learn the techniques that will help you walk into any conversation with confidence—and walk away with your power intact. 

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Set boundaries without feeling guilty 
Reclaim your confidence in seconds 
Handle fake apologies and toxic conversations like a pro 

After today, you’ll have the exact tools to protect your peace, reclaim your confidence, and navigate any difficult conversation with ease. 

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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. 

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0:00 Welcome
4:38 Understanding Difficult Personalities
9:10 Techniques for Dealing with Conflict
23:27 Handling Belittlement and Disrespect
28:36 Dealing with Rude Behavior in Public
31:05 Responding to Difficult Personalities
35:09 Understanding Gaslighting
42:15 Communicating with Narcissists
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How To Handle Difficult People & Take Back Your Peace and Power

Discover how to break free from victim mentality and the toxic roles of the victim triangle. Learn practical steps to heal, set boundaries, and restore healthy relationships.

Escaping the Victim Triangle: Reclaim Your Power and Heal

How to Break Free from Victim Mentality and the Victim Triangle for Good

You cannot be in a healthy, flourishing relationship with someone who refuses to take responsibility for their own issues. This is why the dynamics and roles of the Victim Triangle must be recognized.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What the three roles of the Victim Triangle are.
- How to grow in self-awareness without labeling others.
- Where to insert boundaries if you find yourself in toxicity.

Helpful Links
- Download “Trust Is a Track Record: 5 Scriptural Truths To Remember God’s Faithfulness" by Lysa TerKeurst here: https://proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2025/02/24/trust-is-a-track-record-5-scriptural-truths-to-remember-gods-faithfulness?utm_source=YT&utm_medium=desc-thth-ep8-1

- Purchase "The Trust Journey Bundle" that includes I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst as well as The Trust Journey (a guided journal to use alongside I Want to Trust You, but I Don’t) here: https://www.p31bookstore.com/products/the-trust-journey-bundle-p31?utm_source=YT&utm_medium=desc-thth-ep8-1

- We'd like to extend a special thank-you to our sponsor for this season — Compassion International. When you sponsor a child, you'll receive the study guide Proverbs: The Beginning of All Wisdom as our gift to you! Go to compassion.com/proverbs31 to get started!

Want more on this topic? 
- Watch “Am I Trying To Control What Is Actually out of My Control?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_tw-bI6HxeM

- Watch “Here Is Your Permission To Set Boundaries" With Jim Cress. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JUHQQ5jro0

- Watch “Narcissism ... What It Is and What It Isn’t." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBQbXyeNSjk

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How To Escape the Victim Triangle for Good | Therapy & Theology #victimmentality

Learn how to recognize spiritual abuse in religious communities, understand its tactics, and find ways to protect yourself and others. Insights from expert Anna Kitkco reveal critical warning signs and healing strategies.

Spotting Spiritual Abuse in Churches: Warning Signs and Recovery Steps

How to Recognize and Respond to Spiritual Abuse in Religious Institutions

What if your pastor wasn’t protecting you—but controlling you? As Netflix documentaries and media coverage expose modern cases of spiritual abuse, it's clear that toxic religious environments are more widespread, more covert, and more dangerous than many people realize. But what can Christians do to safeguard themselves and loved ones from being victimized by their own churches and potential cults?

To confront this growing crisis, Frank welcomes Anna Kitko, Chapter Director of Ratio Christi at the University of Tennessee–Knoxville, beEmboldened mentor, and an expert in coercive control and spiritual trauma. With deep insight into how abuse happens and how healing begins, Anna helps uncover the hidden patterns behind spiritual manipulation—and what to do about it. Tune in as she and Frank answer questions like:

-- What are the warning signs of a cult or spiritually abusive church?
-- What is the New Apostolic Reformation and why are these churches especially concerning?
-- What are the different types of cults and what's the largest cult group in the U.S. today?
-- What manipulation tactics do spiritual abusers use?
-- Why are even sincere Christians vulnerable to deception?
-- What is pseudodoxy—and how does it disguise itself as truth?
-- How can spiritual abuse harm your body physically, and not just your soul?
-- How do you escape spiritual abuse and how can we support others who need help?

Whether you’re recovering from spiritual abuse or want to help others heal, this episode offers critical tools for spotting manipulation, supporting survivors, and staying grounded in biblical truth. You'll also learn what NOT to do when counseling victims, how to identify coercive control even in mainstream churches, and what steps to take if you feel something is wrong. Don’t miss this eye-opening conversation that could protect you or someone you love, and if help is needed, please contact Anna using the resources listed below.

📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED DURING THE PODCAST

Full-Circle Counseling & Wellness of East TN - https://www.fullcirclecounselingtn.com/
beEmboldened Ministries (virtual counseling) - https://www.beemboldened.com/
Ratio Christi at the Univ. of TN-Knoxville - https://bit.ly/3SZv7wx
Understanding Spiritual Abuse: What It Is and How to Respond - https://a.co/d/aRfouxK
Bully Pulpit by Michael Krueger - https://a.co/d/85I9C7P
Sons of Patriarchy - https://www.sonsofpatriarchy.com/

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[PODCAST] How to Recognize & Respond to Spiritual Abuse in the Church with @annakitko

Explore how emotional abuse silences women, its hidden wounds, and practical steps to reclaim voice and healing. Learn to recognize and break the cycle.

Breaking the Silence: Understanding Emotional Abuse and Its Impact on Women

The Part Emotional Abuse Plays in Silencing Women: Understanding and Breaking the Cycle

In this episode, we want to talk about the part emotional abuse plays in silencing women.

Join Lysa TerKeurst; Licensed Professional Counselor Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, for a conversation about therapy and theology.

Helpful resources from Lysa TerKeurst and the Proverbs 31 Team:

- Download Lysa’s free resource titled “Where Do I Go From Here? Six Ways To Start Healing Even When You’re Still Hurting” here: https://proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2021/03/01/six-ways-to-start-healing-even-when-you-re-still-hurting?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=yt-thth-ep2-2

- Get your copy of Lysa TerKeurst’s book “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” here: https://www.p31bookstore.com/collections/lysa-terkeurst-books-and-bible-studies/products/good-boundaries-and-goodbyes?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=yt-thth-ep2-2

- Ready to take a personal next step in finding a Christian counselor? The American Association of Christian Counselors is a great place to find the right fit for you and your circumstances. www.aacc.net

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Therapy & Theology: The Part Emotional Abuse Plays in Silencing Women

Explore how to identify toxic relationships through emotional, spiritual, and relational lenses. Gain biblical insights and practical advice for healthy boundaries and healing.

Recognizing and Navigating Toxic Relationships: A Biblical and Practical Guide

Is This Relationship Toxic? Understanding, Identifying, and Responding to Toxic Dynamics

In this episode, Lysa TerKeurst; Licensed Professional Counselor Jim Cress; and Proverbs 31 Ministries' Director of Theological Research, Dr. Joel Muddamalle, tackle the hot-topic word "toxic," defining what it is, what it isn't, and how to respond to toxic dynamics in a relationship.

Helpful links from Lysa TerKeurst and the Proverbs 31 Team: 

- Download the FREE Listener Guide for this Therapy & Theology video here: https://proverbs31.org/read/resource-library/resources/2023/03/16/therapy-theology-listener-guide-season-3-episode-1?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=yt-thth-ep3-1

- Get your copy of Lysa TerKeurst’s book “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” here: https://www.p31bookstore.com/collections/lysa-terkeurst-books-and-bible-studies/products/good-boundaries-and-goodbyes?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=yt-thth-ep3-1

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